calling

  • ministry, friendships & loneliness: “But the Lord stood by me and strengthened me”

    Philippians 4:11  Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. 12  I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. 13  I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

    Up until recently, I pretty much considered these words of Paul primarily in regard to Paul’s physical needs, and certainly the surrounding context implies Paul had been writing about some physical provision the Philippians had made for him.

    But now as I’ve been thinking more about the loneliness of ministry I’m looking at Paul’s words in a new light.

    Didn’t any and every circumstance for the apostle Paul have to also include his emotional needs, specifically those circumstances in which there were no friends left to support him?

    Hadn’t Paul learned the secret of facing plenty (in friendships) and hunger (in friendships), abundance and need (in friendships)?

    Hadn’t Paul learned he could do all things (regardless of whether he had many friends or no friends) through Christ who strengthened him?

    II Timothy 4:16 …but all deserted me. May it not be charged against them! 17  But the Lord stood by me and strengthened me, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed and all the Gentiles might hear it.

    As much as I treasure my friends, as much as I know they are a gift from God to stand by me and strengthen me, I know that inevitably, in contrast to the Lord, either unintentionally or intentionally, all my friends, yes, each and every one of them, will eventually let me down. The best of friends cannot stand by us at all times. The best of friends cannot strengthen us at all times. (For example, consider how in spite of their best intentions, Peter, James & John fell asleep while the Lord prayed alone in the garden.) I know that in my head, but I sometimes forget that in my heart. God has to keep reminding me of how I often begin to rely on friends rather than Him alone.

    I’ve also found myself murmuring too much lately (well, once is really too much), “No one really understands this calling, this burden that God has given me.” Things like that…Nonsense…

    Well, how can anyone else understand it, really…apart from the Lord Himself? It’s certainly true that as believers we’re all called to Christ, so we have that common bond in Him, we share in His life and in His Spirit.  But beyond that we have different callings on our lives and we’re uniquely gifted (e.g. – see John 21; I Cor. 12-14, etc.). Yes, there are always fellow believers who have similar passions and burdens and similar gifts and similar personalities. But yet…we still have to consider…

    Who gave me this calling?
    Who gave me this burden?
    Who gave me these gifts?
    Who gave me life in the first place?

    As wonderful as they can be, our human friendships are never going to compare to our friendship with and relationship to Christ.

    Christ gave me this calling.
    Christ gave me this burden.
    Christ gave me these gifts.
    Christ gave me life in the first place.

    Besides all that, if our friends were able to be there all the time to stand by us and strengthen us (which they can’t), if our friends could understand completely (which they can’t), would we really rely on the LORD as He intends? Would we be able to say without Him we can do nothing? How could He ever be our all in all if our friends took that role?

    I like Caedmon’s Call’s song “You Created.” Here’s the chorus:

    But You created nothing
    That gives me more pleasure than You
    And You won’t give me something
    That gives me more pleasure than You

    That includes friends. God will not give us friends if we will end up finding them more pleasurable than the Lord Himself.

    Don’t get me wrong here. The apostle Paul cherished his Christian friends and treasured them. That’s evident as we read his many commendations toward his friends as well as his tender care and concern for them. And we’re to do likewise. God has given me some wonderful friends, but they still aren’t God…And I always get in big trouble when I try to substitute them for God or when I begin to say that God Himself isn’t enough for me. It’s just like going to the broken cisterns to drink rather than going to the living waters. Idolatrous? Yes! Foolish? Yes!

    Friends are a gift from God to stand by us and strengthen us, but they are only that – a gift from God, never to be a substitute for God. (Doesn’t the devil love to twist the gifts of God to us?!)

    Friends will stand by us and strengthen us…to a point…

    …all deserted me…

    There’s only one Friend who will stand by us and strengthen us all the time…


    But the Lord stood by me and strengthened me


    The psalmist wrote:

    Psalm 57:2  I cry out to God Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me.

    In other words, whatever God’s purposes are for us, He will fulfill them.

    So, at any particular time, we can trust that God will fulfill His purposes for us in His way. At times that may be by giving us many friends. Other times through a few friends. Other times through a single friend. And, yes, at other times, no friend. But no matter how many or how few friends we have at any time, we can be sure of this: the Lord will never fail to stand by us and strengthen us. (Yes, we all have friends all the time, but I think you know what I’m saying there…there are passions too fiery, burdens too heavy, heartaches too deep, joys too high that no human friend can really come alongside us in some of those times…) Therefore, depending on the particular season of life and season of ministry, sometimes we’ll have an abundance of friends, other times, a few, other times, none. Like the apostle Paul, we must (I must) learn to trust God to be our all in all in abundance and in need. Just as the Lord did. All ended up forsaking Him in the end. In the garden, during his trials and passion and then on the cross, could any friend help Him but His Father? The Lord Jesus completely entrusted Himself to His Father’s keeping, and God’s intent is for us to do the same…at all times. Isn’t Christ there with us when we cry endlessly in those night seasons or when our hearts burn brightly with passionate fire for the Gospel? Is our God not working for our good at all times? When no human friend is there for us, can we not trust Him to stand by us and strengthen us?

    Going back to Psalm 57 once again:

    I cry out to God Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me.

    Isn’t one of God’s great purposes for us to proclaim His Gospel for His glory? Look once again at II Timothy 4:16-17:

    II Timothy 4:16 …but all deserted me. May it not be charged against them! 17  But the Lord stood by me and strengthened me, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed and all the Gentiles might hear it.

    One of God’s purposes in giving us Christian friends is that they will stand by us and strengthen us so the Gospel might be fully proclaimed in the same way Christ stood by and strengthened Paul. Yes, I do know there are many, many other godly purposes for the gift of friends but let’s not lose sight of that glorious purpose God has for us in our friendships. God is all about His glory. And when His Gospel is proclaimed, He is glorified!

    May we trust the workings of our sovereign Lord and God from whom all good gifts come. May we trust His wisdom and His love for us at all times: that He gives friends when we need them and withholds them when we do not need them, and may He give us grace to bless His name at all times. No matter what happens, may we continue to sing that it is well with our souls. May we trust our God in His time to give us godly friends who will stand by and strengthen us to proclaim Christ.

    And let us always remember that God has given Himself to us to stand by and strengthen us forever.

    Romans 8:31 …If God is for us, who can be against us? 32  He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?


    How often do we become restless when we forget God’s bountiful dealings with us? Consider that He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world. He became sin for us so we might become the righteousness of God. He died on the cross for us while we were yet sinners. While we were strangers without hope and without power, His mighty power worked to draw us to Himself, to bring us out of darkness into His marvelous light. His kindness led us to repentance. His Spirit imparted life to our dead souls. We forget those first things…Let us heed the words of the Psalmist:

    Psalm 116:7  Return, O my soul, to your rest; for the LORD has dealt bountifully with you.

    O souls, let us return to our rest as we see that the LORD has dealt bountifully with us and continues to deal bountifully with us! We become restless whenever we forget Whose we are! I so quickly become restless when I forget God’s bountiful goodness to me! He is our Beloved and we are His! Amazing grace poured out at Calvary that allows us to have fellowship with God the Father Himself through the body and blood of His Son and His indwelling Spirit!

    As I have blathered this and that to God about my not having the friends I think I need (or blathering about whatever I think I need; I’m focusing on friends here because that’s been my most recent struggle, but you can fill in the gap with whatever you keep telling God you “need”…), my Father has never failed to be merciful and gracious to me. He never fails to brings me back to my senses to remember His bountiful blessings to me in Jesus Christ. As I look back on how I’ve been whining and pouting and lamenting because I don’t have this or that, the words of Psalm 73 come to mind, to humble me so I have to pray:

    “Forgive me Father. Once again I have been foolish and brutish. You have already given me everything in Christ Jesus, the Friend who sticks closer than a brother, and yet there I am saying to You, ‘Um, sorry that isn’t enough. I want more!’ How abominable. For me to say that Christ isn’t enough! This is foolishness and brutishness to the n-th degree! Forgive me, O God, for Jesus’ sake. I don’t deserve it. I don’t deserve You. I thank You for loving me in the first place and then for continuing to love and keep me for my heart is prone to wander. But for You, my feet would have slipped irreparably. All praise and thanks to You for You alone keep me from falling and will present me before Your throne one Day. For me not to be fully satisfied that You are my best Friend shows how wretched I am. Thank You, Lord God, for Your amazing grace and manifold mercies that You continue to shower down upon me!”

    I’m no different than the Israelites who murmured and grumbled in the desert, “Is the Lord among us or not?”

    Of course, the Lord is among us! And, not only that, but the Lord is in me. He has promised never to leave me or forsake me. His Spirit has come to abide with me forever.

    John 14:15  If you love me, you will keep my commandments. 16  And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever…


    This is the same Holy Spirit who helps with our weaknesses and intercedes for us…

    So what does my Father think when I say to Him, “No one understands this calling. I have no one to talk to….”

    Not much…

    Our Father is good and wants to give us good gifts:

    Psalm 84:11  For the LORD God is a sun and shield;
    the LORD bestows favor and honor.
    No good thing does he withhold
    from those who walk uprightly.
    12  O LORD of hosts,
    blessed is the one who trusts in you!

    If the LORD is withholding friends from us at a particular time, we know that is for our good. Our LORD will never withhold anything good from us. Never! He is our loving Father. He wants to give us good gifts. And His best gift to us is Himself. How easily I forget that in so many ways, including this area of my friendships. We will be blessed as we trust in Him and in His ways and in His will for us during those times of loneliness. May He give us grace to draw closer to Him and be ever-mindful that no matter what the Lord will supply all our need, that He will stand by us and strengthen us at all times.

    I was looking back at some of William Williams’ (1717-1791) hymns this week (in Sweet Singers of Wales) and found this one which God used to speak to my soul. I hope it will bless you as it has me.

    In Lonely Desert Place

    In lonely desert place,
    Without one human friend,
    If God would daily show His face,
    I could my lifetime spend.
    He is in every thing,
    All-present every hour;
    There is no creature that can bring
    Its strength to help His power.

    The fearful desert night,
    Perils in every place,
    And fear of death–all take their flight,
    Where God reveals His face:
    His beauty passing fair,
    His peace, and perfect love,
    Make holy festivals, where’er
    He shineth from above.

    Where Thou art, in all things
    Immortal life abounds;
    Like streams from out the rock it springs,
    And reaches heaven’s bounds:
    From Thee alone have come
    All dawns of shining white,
    To guide, through wastes and lowlands home,
    The children of the light.
     
    Ye sun and moon, farewell;
    Farewell, ye stars of night;
    Where God’s sweet presence comes to dwell,
    There needs no other light:
    A vast eternal day
    Comes from His smiling face;
    A better, greater light than they–
    The radiance of His grace.

    The Lord will stand by us and strengthen us!

    Philippians 4:11  Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. 12  I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. 13  I can do all things through him who strengthens me.


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  • ministry & perseverance (Even after Kadesh “Moses did as the LORD commanded.” Will I?)

    Most of us are familiar with the events of Numbers 20 at Kadesh. The Israelites were whining and murmuring (once again) because there was no water.

    1  And the people of Israel, the whole congregation, came into the wilderness of Zin in the first month, and the people stayed in Kadesh. And Miriam died there and was buried there.

    2  Now there was no water for the congregation. And they assembled themselves together against Moses and against Aaron. 3  And the people quarreled with Moses and said, “Would that we had perished when our brothers perished before the LORD! 4  Why have you brought the assembly of the LORD into this wilderness, that we should die here, both we and our cattle? 5  And why have you made us come up out of Egypt to bring us to this evil place? It is no place for grain or figs or vines or pomegranates, and there is no water to drink.”

    6  Then Moses and Aaron went from the presence of the assembly to the entrance of the tent of meeting and fell on their faces. And the glory of the LORD appeared to them, 7  and the LORD spoke to Moses, saying, 8  “Take the staff, and assemble the congregation, you and Aaron your brother, and tell the rock before their eyes to yield its water. So you shall bring water out of the rock for them and give drink to the congregation and their cattle.” 9  And Moses took the staff from before the LORD, as he commanded him.

    We can see here that Moses started out well…He and Aaron headed straight to the tent of meeting and fell on their faces before the LORD in prayer. The glory of the LORD appeared. The LORD gave them clear directions. But then what happened?

    10  Then Moses and Aaron gathered the assembly together before the rock, and he said to them, “Hear now, you rebels: shall we bring water for you out of this rock?” 11  And Moses lifted up his hand and struck the rock with his staff twice, and water came out abundantly, and the congregation drank, and their livestock.

    Hmm…Moses didn’t finish so well there, did he?

    I can see myself in that. I start off well and for various reasons don’t always end up finishing well. My flesh takes over…

    I also know I’ve had times I’ve been tempted at times to hit the rock, when I was only to speak to it.
    I must say I have spoken to the rock when I’ve only been supposed to speak to it.
    I lost patience and did not trust God to work in His way and in His time.
    I reaped what I’ve sown.

    I know I’ve been tempted in recent days to hit the rock, when I’m only supposed to speak to it.
    I know how easy it would be to hit the rock. Too easy.
    I’ve been close to hitting it…very close…too close.
    I’m in danger of losing patience and not trusting God to work in His way and in His time.
    LORD God, guard my mouth, hold my hand back. Help me to trust You to work in Your way and Your time.
    Help me to be obedient to Your commandments.

    (That’s not my main emphasis today here, yet these are things I’ve been struggling with once again, so I’m including them here…)

    We know the rest of Moses’ story. Because Moses struck the rock twice instead of speaking to it, God spoke these words to Moses:

    12  And the LORD said to Moses and Aaron, “Because you did not believe in me, to uphold me as holy in the eyes of the people of Israel, therefore you shall not bring this assembly into the land that I have given them.” 13  These are the waters of Meribah, where the people of Israel quarreled with the LORD, and through them he showed himself holy.

    Any time we don’t do things in God’s prescribed way, the LORD is not hallowed and there will be consequences for that…Yes, God is gracious to us, and He uses all things (even our sins) for our good and His glory, yet it is true that we will reap what we sow, and, as a result, there may very well be dire consequences (e.g.- consider David’s sin with Bathsheba and the ensuing cover-up).

    If we stopped right there and focused on the fact that Moses wasn’t able to lead Israel into the promised land, not even to put a foot there, this would be a very depressing story…(Yes, I know Moses ended up there at the Transfiguration…)

    I know if I were Moses I would be tempted to say, “Ok, LORD, that’s enough. If I can’t get into the promised land, why bother?” (self-centered much?)

    I will confess to you that my promised land is revival coming to the Church. And I can too easily make that an idol.

    If I knew I would never see revival come in my lifetime, I know I would be tempted to say, “Ok, LORD, that’s enough. If I’m not going to see revival, why bother? Why bother if I won’t get to cross over Jordan?”

    (Yes, I know Moses did pray to the Lord about his not being able to go into the promised land in Deut. 3, see more below.)

    However, that’s not the attitude we see in Moses after Kadesh. After his disobedience in hitting the rock, in spite of the LORD’s clear proclamation that Moses would not be going into the promised land, we find Moses picking up in obedience to the LORD’s commands.

    Here are a few instances. (You can go and read the surrounding context of each.)

    Numbers 20:27  Moses did as the LORD commanded.

    Numbers 21:9  So Moses made a bronze serpent and set it on a pole.

    Numbers 26:3  …as the LORD commanded Moses.

    Numbers 27:22 And Moses did as the LORD commanded him.

    Numbers 29:40 So Moses told the people of Israel everything just as the LORD had commanded Moses.

    Numbers 31:31: And Moses and Eleazar the priest did as the LORD commanded Moses.

    Numbers 36:5  And Moses commanded the people of Israel according to the word of the LORD…

    Numbers 36:10: The daughters of Zelophehad did as the LORD commanded Moses…

    (I’d just like to note that this pattern of obedience is only a continuation of Moses’ previous obedience to the LORD prior to hitting the rock at Kadesh. From the day at the burning bush (yes, granted, there were some questions then, I know…), to speaking to Aaron, to the encounters with Pharaoh, to the preparations for the Passover, to the Exodus from Egypt, to the Red Sea, to Marah, to Massah and Meribah, to Mt. Sinai, to the golden calf, to the tabernacle preparations, to the priestly garments, to disciplining the rebellious…which really hit close to home, his own sister Miriam, brother Aaron and nephews Nadab and Abihu, and so on…)

    As we look at those verses above, we can see that Moses’ obedience doesn’t just involve Moses, but also involves other people and very often the whole nation of Israel. What would have happened if Moses just decided to chuck it?

    Though our obedience always has implications, let’s consider what would have happened to those countless other souls if Moses hadn’t obeyed as God commanded. We certainly must be humbled and sobered when we consider the wide-reaching and long-term implications of our disobedience (and obedience).

    Among God’s commands after Moses’ disobedience at Kadesh, there are a couple I find really challenging.

    First is the command of the Lord to Moses to strip his deceased brother Aaron of his garments and put them on Aaron’s son Eleazar. Miriam had died not long before the incident at Kadesh and now Aaron dies. How devastating would that be?

    Yet what was Moses’ response?

    Moses did as the LORD commanded.

    Second is the command to Moses to commission his successor, Joshua:

    Numbers 27:18  So the LORD said to Moses, “Take Joshua the son of Nun, a man in whom is the Spirit, and lay your hand on him. 19  Make him stand before Eleazar the priest and all the congregation, and you shall commission him in their sight. 20  You shall invest him with some of your authority, that all the congregation of the people of Israel may obey. 21  And he shall stand before Eleazar the priest, who shall inquire for him by the judgment of the Urim before the LORD. At his word they shall go out, and at his word they shall come in, both he and all the people of Israel with him, the whole congregation.”

    Moses’ response?


    22  And Moses did as the LORD commanded him. He took Joshua and made him stand before Eleazar the priest and the whole congregation, 23  and he laid his hands on him and commissioned him as the LORD directed through Moses.

    Moses did as the LORD commanded.

    Um, yeah, I admit I’d have a tough time with that one. Well, I don’t think it wouldn’t be that bad if I knew I was going to enter into the promised land…But Moses wasn’t going, the LORD had made that clear – yet we see no hint of resentment or jealousy in Moses.

    The LORD said it and Moses did it.

    Moses did as the LORD commanded.


    Will I? Will it be said of me:

    Karen did as the LORD commanded.

    I confess I still don’t have that kind of heart, or the heart of John the Baptist (well, really the heart of Jesus…Philippians 2…):

    John 3:26  And they came to John and said to him, “Rabbi, he who was with you across the Jordan, to whom you bore witness—look, he is baptizing, and all are going to him.” 27  John answered, “A person cannot receive even one thing unless it is given him from heaven. 28  You yourselves bear me witness, that I said, ‘I am not the Christ, but I have been sent before him.’ 29  The one who has the bride is the bridegroom. The friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly at the bridegroom’s voice. Therefore this joy of mine is now complete. 30  He must increase, but I must decrease.”

    But am I, a servant of the LORD, to dictate to the LORD the terms of my service to Him?

    I am praying God might circumcise my heart to do as He commands. May He give me sufficient grace when He places me in such situations. I am praying His Spirit might work in me so I might not be jealous but rather joyful, that I might be rejoicing rather than resenting…and I might willingly submit myself to serve the LORD however and wherever the He commands. I am praying my joy might be complete as I see others increase as I decrease.

    As I was in my car today, I drove near the workplace of a friend who works because she has to; she would relish to be in my position. I don’t have to work outside the home; my husband has been so gracious and generous to me, and our God has been so gracious and generous to us in providing for all our needs and far beyond that. So as I considered that, God hit me with His divine 2 x 4, and I began to come to my senses and cry out (once again):

    So what else would I rather be doing with my time than studying and teaching and blogging the Word of God and praying for revival?
    What else is more wonderful?
    Who else is more wonderful than You, Lord?
    Don’t let me squander this opportunity You’ve given me!
    Don’t let me waste my life!
    Help me to finish well like Moses did!
    These things have been weighing on my mind because of an account I recently read of Martyn Lloyd-Jones’ (ML-J) last days. This is in part what led to write the following in my last update:

    I also have some things I’ve been contemplating about ministry which at first I found daunting, but God has allowed me to settle in and trust Him in those and ponder them in my heart for the time being and trust Him to show me what I need to know when I need to know it and to know that He never gives us more than He equips us to do.

    Here’s Iain Murray writing of a conversation he had with ML-J less than a month before his death (“The Fight of Faith,” 773):

    I scarcely ever recall ML-J drawing any parallel between his own ministry and that of any Christian figure of a past age. But one parallel which he did draw in conversation on February 5, 1981 is a striking illustration of what was uppermost in his heart. ‘I feel in many way,’ he said, ‘like Griffith Jones of  Llanddowror.’ The man to whom he hoped to possess a resemblance was a little-remembered figure, born in Carmarthenshire in 1683 and significant not so much for what he achieved as for what he did in preparing the way for others. Griffith Jones was ‘the morning star’ of the great awakening of the eighteenth century in Wales, the forerunner of the better-known men who were to follow. The comparison tells us a great deal. Dr Lloyd-Jones had yearned for something in his own day which, when he spoke these words, he knew he was not going to be permitted to see. But his mind was not on the question of how posterity would remember him, it was on the success of the gospel. I responded, ‘As you have often said, God’s calendar is not ours’, but, only half-hearing me, he went on: ‘I never thought it was going to take so long. I thought I was going to see great revival but I am not complaining. It wasn’t God’s time and this preparatory work had to be done.’ If he could die believing that he had been permitted to do something to prepare the way for better men and greater days, that was enough.
    I read these words and started to weep. I’ve only had a burden for revival for just over a year and I’m already impatient…yet the Doctor had such a burden for years. As I read and listen to his sermons on revival, I sometimes cry; he’d even seen some revival in his first pastorate in Wales during the early 1930′s, but then nothing after that on any large scale, but he longed for more since he’d experienced first-hand in that congregation and in his own life. He was so burdened to see revival come to the Church because he saw the ruins. God has opened my eyes to those ruins and I am now burdened to see revival come in much the same way.

    Like ML-J I am yearning for something because I’ve had a taste of it in my own life and have seen that in the lives of a few others. I don’t yet know if I’ll see wide scale revival in my lifetime. I’m over fifty now; I don’t know how many years I have left here, I don’t know when or if the Lord might choose to come down from on high with power to revive the Church. I don’t know when He might return to take us home. But I do know (and I’ve already known this deep down for a while now) that part of my ministry is a preparation ministry. When I read those words, they were hard for me to swallow because that was a reminder to me that I must have the grace to step aside and commission the Joshuas who are younger to take up the work, and I may very well not be allowed to cross over Jordan.

    We see the account of Moses’ conversation with the LORD in Deuteronomy 3:23-36…Moses knew God was great and mighty, so he prayed he might be able to cross over Jordan.

    26  But the LORD was angry with me because of you and would not listen to me. And the LORD said to me, ‘Enough from you; do not speak to me of this matter again. 27  Go up to the top of Pisgah and lift up your eyes westward and northward and southward and eastward, and look at it with your eyes, for you shall not go over this Jordan. 28  But charge Joshua, and encourage and strengthen him, for he shall go over at the head of this people, and he shall put them in possession of the land that you shall see.’

    That’s serious stuff. The LORD was clear there.

    I can’t ever demand I get to cross over Jordan, but only trust God’s goodness to me and to know He will not withhold from me anything good. If it is good for me to cross over Jordan, to see revival in my lifetime, I will see it.

    My first concern must be with the glory of God and the success of the Gospel.

    I will say that I know there are some Joshuas out there, and I get teary-eyed now as I think of them and mention that now. I am praying for many young people who don’t even know I’m praying for them. I don’t know what will come out of that, but as God directs me, I’m continuing to pray for them. I thank God for those young men and women, and I pray God give me the grace to minister with perseverance until my final breath, knowing full well I am doing preparatory work for the Lord to come. May God give me the grace to persevere, to plant and water the seeds God gives me, even though I may not see much of the harvest in this lifetime. Yes, I confess that I would love to see wide-spread revival, I would love to go over the Jordan into the promised land, but if that is not the Lord’s will for me, may I persevere in obedience until the very end, like Moses. So long as the LORD gives me breath may I cry out:

    Isaiah 40
    3  …“In the wilderness prepare the way of the LORD;
    make straight in the desert a highway for our God.
    4  Every valley shall be lifted up,
    and every mountain and hill be made low;
    the uneven ground shall become level,
    and the rough places a plain.
    5  And the glory of the LORD shall be revealed,
    and all flesh shall see it together,
    for the mouth of the LORD has spoken.”

    May it be said of me:
     

    Karen did as the LORD commanded.
    May it be said of all of us:

    We did as the LORD commanded.

    If I can die believing that I have been permitted to do something to prepare the way for better men and greater days, may that be enough for me!

  • ML-J on depression in the ministry

     
    In my last post I updated you and shared some of my prayer requests and how I was feeling pretty weary. Here’s a little excerpt from that:

    I will tell you that I am feeling pretty burnt out mentally and emotionally as well as physically. It’s hard to admit you’re weak, but this is where I am at tonight…I’m not infallible. I like to think I am…but I do myself no favors by hiding my weaknesses…

    I did a search for the word weary earlier tonight and I found Psalm 68:9:


    Thou, O God, didst send a plentiful rain, whereby thou didst confirm thine inheritance, when it was weary (KJV).

    Rain in abundance, O God, you shed abroad; you restored your inheritance as it languished (ESV).

    * * *

    I thank you for your comments to that post and your prayer for me.

    This past weekend I had a nice getaway with my husband. It was a refreshing time away in many ways.

    With the driving time to get there, plus the time away from home, I had more time to read and had less time online. I finally finished “The Fight of Faith,” the second (and final) volume in Iain Murray’s biography of Martyn Lloyd-Jones. I hadn’t remembered that I actually began reading the book before Christmas, so I have slowly made my way through it; it’s around 800 pages, much of it packed with names, places, details, etc., all of which I have difficulty reading and processing.

    God led me to a wonderful passage in the book (705-706) which was a confirmation of what I already knew regarding calling. (I will add here that Dr. Lloyd-Jones was speaking here to men in the ministry or in Christian leadership, and that he did not endorse women in pastoral ministry. By using his words here I don’t mean to imply that he did. I am not a pastor of a church, and I do not have a calling to pastor per se, but I wanted to make that disclaimer. Many people will take the Doctor’s words and use them out of context. I am using his words here as a general guideline to all of us, since we are all called to minister for God to the Body of Christ, we are all called to walk in good works, and we can all be discouraged in that. But I do want to make clear that along with ML-J, I agree that the call to the pastoral ministry is unique and distinct.)

    I was already aware of these things through my own time in the Word and prayer and I have already read them elsewhere in ML-J’s other books and other places, and I’ve even written about them myself, but I really needed this timely reminder.

    I hope and pray the Doctor’s words here might be a help to you today, or if not today, then some time down the line when you are depressed and doubting your calling. These words come from one of the Westminster Fellowship meetings held in 1977. (The Westminster Fellowship began in 1941 at Westminster Chapel and the meetings were held quarterly for the encouragement of pastors and other men in Christian leadership.)

    Here’s the Doctor:

    I can assure you that depression in the ministry is not a problem of temperament. Men of every conceivable temperament get this trouble – the feeling that everything is on top of us. The one possible exception is the phlegmatic who is not concerned about anything. he is so bucolic, ox-like, that he is not likely to feel a call to the ministry! Men in the ministry are sensitive men. I have met few others. The way to approach this problem is not along lines of temperament – that is incidental.

    The big thing is not to start with the problem. Start with the question, what is your calling? Why are you in the ministry? What is the object of the ministry? Is the church mine? Why am I troubled? Am I concerned about my reputation? Why am I hurt? . . . Our reactions are too often due to a wrong view of our calling. Remember Paul: ‘With me it is a very small thing that I should be judged of you, or of man’s judgment: yes, I judge not mine own self’ [I Cor. 4:3]. I have found this to be the answer so many times. Paul had to go through it all. In Corinth men were praised more than Paul who were not worthy to shine his boots. Paul’s concept of the ministry lay in his calling to be faithful. We should not make it a personal issue.

    Isolate, then, the fact of your calling. Get that right. The antagonism we encounter is generally against the calling and most of our problems arise because we get immersed in the day-to-day problems and forget what we are. ‘Should such a man as I flee?’ [Neh. 6:11]. Nehemiah was talking about his calling. This is the way to look at it. Certain things then become unthinkable and you will not hand in your resignation.

    It is not your church or my church. It is the chosen people of God we serve. We must beware lest we offend the generation of God’s people [Psa. 73:15]. The devil can come in to tempt us but it isn’t always the devil. We have got to see it all in the right perspective. Let us remember who we are. We haven’t entered a profession. We are servants of the living God!

    Aren’t these wonderful words?

    Men in the ministry are sensitive men. I have met few others.

    I’ve had many, many times when I have asked God, no cried out to God with great exasperation, “Why have you made me so sensitive?” By the grace of God, I’ve done that less and less, however, though I still find myself doing it every so often. How brutish I am. *sigh*

    The Doctor’s words were (and are) a real encouragement to me. God knows exactly what He is doing with us. He has shaped us in our mother’s wombs. He has a purpose and plan for us and our temperaments can never limit His sovereign plan for us and He uses our temperaments to bring Him glory (as He uses all things!).

    Start with the question, what is your calling? Why are you in the ministry?

    Yes, exactly! We need to go back to the first things.

    What is the object of the ministry? Is the church mine?

    Woo! Stab! Pierce!

    Why am I troubled? Am I concerned about my reputation? Why am I hurt? Our reactions are too often due to a wrong view of our calling.

    Grrr! Those why questions get us right to the thoughts and intents of the heart, don’t they? Otherwise we remain off track and unable to put our finger on the real issue. We keep jumping around and we remain blinded to the real issue. And when we don’t see the underlying sin and selfishness there, then we can’t ever begin to mortify it or put it off, can we?

    Paul’s concept of the ministry lay in his calling to be faithful. We should not make it a personal issue.

    Oh, I know I too often make it a personal issue! O, that I would see the main thing is to be faithful, faithful to the One who is ever faithful and true!

    Isolate, then, the fact of your calling.

    Amen. That’s the beauty of having a calling. You can go back and look at that time, those verses, that whisper, whatever it was, and then stand with confidence in that calling in spite of your current feelings and circumstances. Isolate, then, the fact of your calling.  The fact. A calling is a fact. It’s not fiction. it’s rooted in the God who spoke that calling into your heart and soul.

    We can go and look back at those Ebenezers, to those piles of stones we’ve set up. This is one reason I love journaling and blogging. It helps me to do that. I’ve also found that even looking through my iPhoto at the pictures of the places where God has met me has been very, very helpful in that.

    I will add here that we need to go beyond isolating the fact of our calling to ministry, we need to go back to our calling to Christ in the first place. How He led us to Himself.

    And for those of us who are married, we need to go back to our calling to our spouses. I can’t imagine being married if I did not have a clear calling to be married.

    We also need to go back to those special times when God has met us in His Word or through others to encourage and strengthen us. I will reread notes, messages and e-mails at times, even blog comments.

    We need to go back to God’s calling to us in our current churches (something I still want to write about, how God clearly led me to the place I am at now).

    We need to go back and remember those times He has rejoiced our souls even in the darkness, and then to remember that even in all the hurts, to recall how His good hand has continued to be upon us and He has not allowed anyone to harm us (Genesis 31:7b). How He has done great things for us and has never left us or forsaken us even in the night seasons.

    We need to have ways to go back and remember.

    I will write dates by some of those special Scriptures in my Bibles. And in the past year or so, I’ve begun writing some special passages from Scripture or the saints or some assurances, encouragements or directives God has given in the front and back covers of my spiral notebooks, so they are easier for me to find. (Yes, spiral notebooks work. You don’t need any fancy journals.)

    It is not your church or my church. It is the chosen people of God we serve.

    Ouch! Oh, yes, this is too easy to forget. If we look at the people of God as God’s flock, as His people, isn’t that freeing for us as we minister? We know that the Lord God, the Redeemer, has a vested interest in the welfare of His people because His glory is all bound up with the Church herself.

    We have got to see it all in the right perspective. Let us remember who we are. We haven’t entered a profession. We are servants of the living God!

    Yes! The right perspective! We are servants of the living God! And living souls are at stake. If we could keep that straight it would do us well to keep us well grounded and rooted and keep us from getting off-track in so many ways. Not to serve ourselves, or even to serve others, but first and foremost to serve Him…as our Lord did.

    I seek not my own will but the will of him who sent me.

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    Our Father, we know You have redeemed us with the precious blood of Jesus. You have uniquely called us out of the world with a holy calling and have equipped each of us to serve You for Your glory. Lord God, protect each of us in our calling, encourage us and strengthen us, so we might walk in the works You have ordained for us. Give us ears to hear Your voice always. For those who do not have a clear sense of Your calling, who are not certain about the holy ambition You have for them, I pray You would help them to keep seeking Your face diligently. We know Your timing is perfect and You will lead us in Your perfect way and in Your perfect time. Help us all to be obedient to the light You have already shown us, rather than waiting for more. May we all redeem the time each day and use all You have given us to Your glory. Help us to pray for and to encourage one another here. Show us when we are getting off track and our focus is wrong. Convict us of our sinful tendencies to make ministry about us rather than about You and about serving Your people. Remind us that Your love for Your sheep far exceeds ours. Though we ought to care for the sheep and be willing to lay down our lives for them, help us to be able to rest in the full assurance of Your sovereignty, that no one can snatch one of Your elect sheep out of Your hand – ever. Christ’s blood will keep them all. Help us to look back to the fact of our calling and to see how Your good hand has continued to be on us at all times, even the worst of times, and to see that You have always been and will continue to work all things for our good, for the furtherance of the Gospel and for Your glory. We commit ourselves to You to be used as You will. May You continue to raise up pastors who are men after Your own heart. Amen.